Solitude
Fridays are usually my day off. But today, thanks to the graciousness of my wife and kids, I took a day of solitude instead. To be honest, the pressures of mission and church planting and leadership development have been heavy on my soul lately. I needed a day alone with Jesus.
Many thanks to the monks at St. Benedict Center in Schuyler, Nebraska, for creating a place of sacred rest. I am no friend of Roman Catholic theology. But their value for Sabbath and solitude and retreat, and their sublime ability to create spaces that reflect those values, is unsurpassed. I only hope missional Protestants can recapture a theology of rest and renewal. Lord knows we need it.
I did not use my vocal chords all day, apart from the obligatory greetings to the staff and monks I passed in the hallways. Some random reflections:
- How much of our conversation is utterly trivial!
- Silence is deeply spiritual; talk keeps us from having to solemnly consider our own mortality
- Silence and solitude are more refreshing to the soul than all the playful diversions that we consider “recreation”
- We are addicted to noise and music and friends and television and work. All our busyness and conversation keeps us from “meeting with God in adoring silence” (Tozer)
- We are awash in information, yet most of us lack the ability to converse thoughtfully and meaningfully about the things of God. Could it be that our lack of solitude and prayerful silence affects our ability to “filter” and process the information all around us?
Thanks, wife and kids, for the day of retreat. And thanks, people of Coram Deo, for valuing the deep things of spiritual leadership. I trust I will be a more effective and Christ-centered leader as I spend less time doing and more time being with Jesus.

5 Comments:
hi bob, this is darby whealy,
as a fellow devotee of the discipline of solitude, i wanted to add my hearty amen to your thoughtful post. i've also benefitted deeply from time spent at the monastery (and there's a great litte greasy spoon in schuyler that serves some pretty tasty "broasted chicken," which is a nice way to end your time at the retreat center). anyway, i'm delighted to hear you went out there, and are discussing the importance of solitude on the blog. i imagine you've read _the way of the heart_ by henri nouwen? it has some excellent insights into the subject as well. the book is a bit short on theology, admittedly, but still quite helpful.
thanks for your work on behalf of the kingdom and we pray for you regularly from afar.
Bob-
Way to break-away for some good soul time. I suspect that the best thing you can do right now as a leader and pastor is break-away to "really" listen.
Sometimes I head down to Santa Cruz and nestle away in some huge rocks on the coast and let the overspray of the ocean speak to my soul.
Tell you the truth, I'm afraid, if I were to take a day of solitude, my thoughts would not revolve around the spiritual for long. I would try, but I would need to read a "spiritual" book or something just to make the time go faster. I'm fairly certain my thoughts would roam to my Camaro, or to what I was planning on doing this weekend, or work, etc.
Maybe I need to just try it though. *shrug*
Travis... If you get away to a place like The St. Benedict Center, you won't have any trouble focusing on God. I went there with Bob and he told us to just sit and exist and have no interaction with anyone for an evening. But that place just drips with spirituality. If you hang out at your place with all the distractions, it wont work. Getting away from everyone and everything to be with God is helpful. It is sad that it has come to that, that our lives are so routine we sometimes have to disown everything except God in order to experience Him. But it is a pretty sweet experience that's worth missing work, school and social obligations.
Kudos to Bob for bring this subject to our attention. I think solitude is a very important aspect for individuals to grow spiritually. In society we are taught that if you take a break, life will pass you by. We are told that work, family, and religion are the most important thing to spend your time on. If you don't focus your time on this, then essentialy, you are selfish. Additionally, we are taught that every minute, is a minute to live and we must make the most out of it. However, somewhere in our society the though of sitting and doing stopping all physical activity has been classified as doing "nothing".
I have spent the majority of my life avoiding solitude. If I avoided solitude, I never had to think about the effects my actions have had on my life. I was so scared to confront myself, that I made sure to use every moment of freetime being distracted by things around me. It wasn't until I found the importance of solitude that I found what my actions were doing to society and to my soul. Through solitude I found myself, which was a scary and dirty thing, but it allowed me to stop for a moment to understand how God was yelling at me to change me life. I believe solitude allows us to hear God clearly and focus our attention to praising him when we put our watch back on.
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